On being totally honest and child like

SweetPerceptions says:

On being totally honest

I always thought that 'old' couples miss out each other's company because either they aren't totally honest or they lost the child that they have within themselves.

Yesterday, I thought I'd space out and simply crumble to pieces just by telling the truth.. But this is only a thought.  It's really a shame to be totally honest, but kinda liberating in the end.  It can be a pet peeve that you're trying to let go, or simply letting out a rant; but the simple yet difficult way of telling the truth can be the only way out.

I think that everyone who engages in a relationship must learn to be totally honest, and also take the other's complete honesty.  It must always be 'egoless', otherwise, you both will never grow.  And so, I am thankful to hear my partner's rants and learn from them, much as he is always willing to do the same thing.

It's really a petty thing to take note of, but in order to grant me peace of mind, I had to spill it out.  It's always unhealthy to keep secrets, stuffs that could really bother you to death.  I am not sorry about it, I guess that is human nature, I only have to tell.  Things that hurt the most, must never be kept secret.  If one needs help, then ask for it.  No one can help you if they don't know it.  And, I believe, we must never assume anything, more importantly if its about your partner.  A false assumption is also a killer.  It can kill you if you thought wrong, or kill your partner because he was judged.  So, the simple way of dealing with these stuffs is just to be honest..

On being child like

Somehow, it is also great that he enjoys being playful as much as I am playful.  I enjoy the times that we can be child like and simply have fun without the expense of ruining our reputation (as serious persons, moreso, managers of our company).  I simply love the times that I can be simply me, and still have him love my child like nature. 

Get to play sometimes.  It doesn't hurt to be simple minded at times, and it can relieve stress.   

Deyey says:

On being totally honest

The best thing a couple can have, besides love of course, is honesty. Partners need to be honest with each other so that "trust" will follow soon after. The more you are honest to your loved one, the more he or she will trust you in letting you know his or her ideas and feelings.

An honest relationship is a healthy relationship. Even though you may hurt your partner with your full honesty, at least your partner knows what's bugging you, or what's keeping you smiling.

However, since we're all humans, there will come times wherein one would lie, either inadvertently or purposely. Inadvertently if the partner didn't have any knowledge that he or she actually lied (yes there are cases like these). Purposely if the partner has full knowledge of the truth and how he or she will bend it.

Even if it's a "white lie", it would still be a lot better to tell your partner the truth, though you know that it might hurt him or her. That's how it is with reality. It's a lot like an vaccine… you'll get hurt a bit but it's gonna do you good once you get it.

As for me, I've already failed slightly with honesty so I have to pay the price of regaining my partner's trust. Yet, I still believe that love would get me through this… and an honest love is all I'm willing to give to my "Honey".

On being child-like

This is the best feeling in the world! One should always learn when to be serious and when to be child-like. As for me and my partner, we can balance our moods depending on the situation. I really love it when we do "kiddie" things together… just for the fun of it.

We don't want to let go of that feeling wherein you don't have a care in the world, regardless of the consequence (one time, in band camp, my honey urged me to "get lost" with her in our trip to Dau…). It's really a healthy thing to "de-stress" once in a while by getting back to your "inner child" and never minding all the negative factors that come to your life.

As a child would say, "why would I do that when I'm happy doing this?"

Simplicity. Just like a child!